Michele Corgiat
marriage and family therapist
Life's Tapestry
by Michele Corgiat on February 17th, 2015

Today I find myself tearful and emotional.  I am not sad or depressed but I find myself  emotional over the stories of others.   Stories about grief, sadness and despair. We each have a story that seems as unique as we are.   Although each story is individual, they usually hold common threads.

Picture for me, a beautiful tapestry rug that has many different colors of thread woven throughout. Each thread may not hold a beauty in and of itself, and may seem trivial when alone, but once combined with others, it becomes a masterpiece.  This is our lives.  Each story has love and hurt, joy and sorrow, trust and mistrust., acceptance and rejection, security and fear. As a rule of thumb, people don’t often seek out counseling when they are in the middle of joy and peace in their lives. They muster the courage to seek counsel when they are feeling sorrowful, hurt, scared, or rejected. I hear stories everyday as people enter my counseling office to unload their burdens. Let me share some truths and threads I have found interwoven through the stories of others.

First of all, I want everyone to know that all feelings are normal feelings, including sadness, anger, rejection, hurt and fear.  You have not failed in your life and you are not crazy or really “messed up” if you are experiencing some of these feelings.  We all do!

Secondly, we grow the most in our lives when we are in desperate places.  It is in these periods of our lives when we find ourselves on our face before God, seeking answers, and open to change.  Why are we going to want to “do life better” or  seek out healing or help in our lives if we never feel a need?  

Third, YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!!  Desperate places feel like lonely and isolated places.  They are the desert of our existence, but you are not alone. Deuteronomy 31:6 instructs us to  “Be strong and courageous.  Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the LORD your God goes with you;  he will never leave you nor forsake you.”  FYI, this doesn’t mean that you must have failed if you are experiencing anxiety and fear.  God is  simply letting us know that He has us in His care.  

And finally, know that this painful and dark place you find yourself, is temporary.  You may find yourself in a season of  life that seems endless when you are in the midst of anguish, but it is a season.  There is a new season around the bend.  Be diligent and steadfast in working through the painful times and you will begin to find that  healing will take place followed by fruit and growth in your life.

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