Michele Corgiat
marriage and family therapist
by Michele Corgiat on October 26th, 2014

When I was a kid and we were playing a game, ever so often somebody would yell…”DO OVER’S!!!!” How I translated that as a child was that the person wanting “do-over’s” just didn’t like to lose.   Oh how I wish I had “do over’s” in so many areas of my life now.  This past spring I was asked by a mentor to list three things that I believed in.  I took this task very seriously and wanted to answer as if my life depended on it.  This is what I came up with.

 1. I believe in God and everything that goes with Him.  That the Bible is truth, that Jesus came and died as a sacrifice for my sins, and that he was resurrected in three days.  I believe it ALL! 
2. I believe that relationships are the catalyst for change in our lives.  Whether it is our relationship with Christ, our relationship with friends or family.  We often make changes in our lives due to the influence of others or because we want to influence others.
3. I believe in “do-over’s”.  Let me clarify, I have no desire to go back and relive traumas and dramas.  I know that I can’t take back things done and said (although I often wish I could have “take-backs”).   I do believe that I can continue to try to do “it” better and hopefully be more successful the second, third, or maybe fourth time. 
 What does God say about the “Do-Over” process?  God isn’t about doing the “do-over”, but He is about being the “do-over”.  Isn’t that what salvation is all about?  We get to be a new creation in Him.  We get to BE a “Do-Over”!

Therefore from now on we recognize no one according to the flesh; even though we have known Christ according to the flesh, yet now we know Him in this way no longer.17Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creature; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come. 18Now all these things are from God, who reconciled us to Himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation,…                                  II Corinthians 5:16-18

We  have the opportunity to be a “do-over”.  He doesn’t desire for us to stew in the guilt of our failures.  Instead, we need to go back to allowing our relationship with Christ to change our heart, effect change in our behaviors, and to be the center of our attention.  Do we always get this perfectly?  No!  But he gives us mercy and allows us “do-over’s” constantly.

The LORD'S loving kindnesses indeed never cease, For His compassions never fail.23They are new every morning; Great is Your faithfulness. 24"The LORD is my portion," says my soul, "Therefore I have hope in Him."… Lamentations 3:23

That brings us to having hope that we can work on getting “it” right.  We have to continue holding onto hope that with God’s help, we will find success in Him

But with you there is forgiveness, so that we can, with reverence, serve you.
5I wait for the Lord, my whole being waits, and in his word I put my hope.
6I wait for the Lord more than watchmen wait for the morning, more than watchmen wait for the morning.
7Israel, put your hope in the Lord, for with the Lord is unfailing love and with him is full redemption.
Psalm 130:4-7

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